Text Message Terrorism - What Not to Do to Get Your Ex Back

Published: 16th January 2009
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Text Message Terrorism - What Not to Do to Get Your Ex Back

When your boyfriend decides to end the relationship, it's easy to go into panic mode and do things you know you shouldn't but can't help but turn to. Fighting your first impulses isn't easy, but if you allow yourself to make the wrong mistakes, it can really hurt your chances of getting him back. Text Message Terrorism is one of those mistakes.

For most people, this comes as a panic response to the worry that they'll lose their ex forever and in their minds it's the only way they can think of to latch onto their ex and keep themselves on his mind. What Text-Message Terrorism refers to is the onslaught of constant phone calls, emails, and you guessed it, text messages.

Not only does this violate the sacred "No Contact for a Month" rule that I set down for everybody in an immediate post-breakup situation, it puts you into a seriously bad position in your ex's eyes. To be blunt, it makes you look clingy, desperate, and sometimes a little unstable. Taken to the extreme it can even be considered harassment!

A far better way to deal with this is to follow that One Month of No Contact rule. It gives both of you some time to cool off and get your minds and lives settled, and lets the fiery breakup emotions turn to missing each other and wanting each other back. You KNOW it's happening to you, and you can bet if you two really were close it'll be happening to him --but ONLY if you're NOT there.

Another grave mistake you can make is after that month is up, when you actively pursue him again. Too many people assume that their first instincts are the best course of action when it comes to getting your ex back, when they're most decidedly not. To make this as smooth and easy as possible, you'll need an underlying strategy, a plan that you know works. Without it, you're just setting yourself up for a lot of misery.

How to getex back?

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at http://hubpages.com/hub/howshouldiwoomyexback

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

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