Help! My Ex is Dating Someone Else - What is a Rebound Relationship and What Can I Do?

Published: 16th January 2009
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Help! My Ex is Dating Someone Else - What is a Rebound Relationship and What Can I Do?

You just broke up with your ex and now she is dating someone else a.k.a a rebound relationship. So, can you get her back and how do you get her back? Well, let's first discuss what exactly is a rebound relationship. It is a relationship that happens right after a breakup because your ex is trying to get over you.

You see, rebound relationships is a tool that folks use so they don't have to deal with the pain and emotions of breaking up. In short, they are using other people to move on from a real love (that would be you).

So the key thing to remember about rebound relationships is that she is using another guy to deal with losing you.

And here is another key thing to keep in mind, it really doesn't matter why she lost you or whether not not it was your fault or hers. All that really matters is you really do have a real love between each other.

And the reason I say this is because just about every single relationship I know of that was real and based on real love can be saved!

Yes! You heard me right. Your relationship can be saved if it was based on true love for each other.

Usually when someone is in a rebound relationship, they are focused on doing the opposite of what your relationship was like. And why? She is trying to avoid the problems that happened with the relationship with you. So if you are a good guy, she will be dating a "bad boy." Or if you were quiet and introspective, she may be dating a outwardly and bomastic kind of guy. Get the drift. Opposites.

But the very fact that your ex is focusing on the differences between you and the other dude is actually good news for you for 2 reasons. She is still thinking about you while she is with the other guy (the other guy won't be happy about hearing that!). And the second thing is you can find out exactly what she is looking for in a relationship.

So use the rebound relationship to your advantage to determine what she wants. What she was missing. And use that time apart from her to make little changes in yourself.
Now, this is going to be a little difficult for some guys to take, but let the rebound relationship run its course. Don't put any pressure on her or freak her out by doing anything stressful. Just relax and wait it out. After a while she will begin to see flaws in him (they mostly do) and after a month or more you are going to start looking a whole lot better to her.

This is why you do not want to rush back to her and fight for your relationship. It is always better to let her find out that she misses the great times she had with you that she isn't getting from the new guy. But just be ready if she does make an attempt to get back with you. Be nice. Be very gentle and understanding. And above all, be that new and improved model of a boyfriend. But do not chase after her because it is the worst thing you can do. You will actually make her more determined to stick it out with her new boyfriend.

To sum it up. Here is what you will be doing if she is in a rebound relationship:

1) Stay away. Let her figure out that you were the love of her life.

2) If you did something wrong that caused the breakup, only apologize once. Anymore, and you will lose points in her eyes. So apologize if you did wrong just once and then just move on with your life.

3) Stop watching those Hollywood movies for making up tips! Do not make any promises to change because the original you is the guy she fell in love with. However, that doesn't mean you cannot make some small changes. But don't tell her that.

4) Don't use any logic! It doesn't work. I see this all the time. Folks trying to make the other person see that it wasn't their fault logically. So don't do it. Take it for sure that your ex is smart enough to know the difference. On her own.

5) And this is probably the most important advice I can give you. Do not ever beg her to take you back. If you do, you might as well pack it in because it ain't happening.
So here it is again, you just learned that your ex is in a rebound relationship to get over you. And you do have a fighting chance but you have to give her some room to figure that out on her own. And the key thing is being in a rebound relationship most likely means she is still in love with you. Good luck buddy.

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Emma Morris on September 13, 2011 said:
This article really hits the nail on the head with rebound relationships and getting an ex back. It is highly informative and makes so much sense. Waiting a rebound relationship out can be very difficult but this article shows that there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

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